Is Time Really The Ultimate Healer Of All Wounds?
Tag & Response Prompt
At one point or another of our lives, maybe we all have heard people saying “everything will be okay with time, time heals all wounds”. While people usually mean well by saying that, it’s not necessarily true. I believe time numbs our feelings but does not solve the issues. Maybe time takes away the edge of the pain, but the healing doesn’t take place on its own accord. The healing is rather associated with the utilization of the time — what do we do with the given time.
Time is just a concept that is measured by minutes, hours, days, months, or years. If we do not take the responsibility of healing our own wounds, time itself won’t do anything, we will just continue to be miserable. And by trying to heal ourselves, we are not doing any disrespect to the source of the pain.
There are different types of times. One is chronological time — the usual concept of time, the clock ticking away, it is associated with everything we do to get our activities of daily life going — the planning, working, completing tasks, etc. It helps us to remain busy and continue our daily lives. While it may seem convenient at first, ultimately it hinders our way of looking into our minds. It rarely allows us to notice what we are feeling which can lead to serious psychological damage. Another type of time is sacred time — this is when we slow down and take a close look at inside and outside of ourselves. It is about paying attention and becoming more open to experiences. If time heals, it is the sacred time because it allows us to be in peace with ourselves with complete awareness; not the chronological time which pulls us away with the clock ticking every moment.
We can look at our surroundings or ourselves if we have that kind of experience. We tend to go through some trauma when we are grieving. The grief may result from the loss of someone close to your heart, or due to some deviation of the pathway from your dream which you have wanted to do all your life, or anything else. It varies greatly from person to person which incidence triggers us to face the trauma. We can’t just go on with our daily lives ignoring what is bothering us, that does no good for us. We need to come to a term with ourselves that it is okay to be grieving and this is why I am grieving, only then we can start to recover.
I, simply, do not believe in the time being the healer of everything because it can not be defined how much time is required for healing. Everyone responds differently to pain and grief. But it is important to respond. An undetermined source of the pain can push you even further from the alley of your life. For moving past the pain you are feeling, it is highly important to determine the source of your all hazard. Then you can utilize your time to recover from your wounds.
So, time is really not the ultimate healer of our souls, as Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy said-
“It has been said, ‘time heals all wounds.’ I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.”
But the concept of pain never going away should not be scary. We learn to live with it at some point. And if we are lucky, we can make that our strength and gather our courage to move forward and live meaningful lives. I can not help but quoting C. Joybell C. here-
“Pain is a pesky part of being human, I’ve learned it feels like a stab wound to the heart, something I wish we could all do without, in our lives here. Pain is a sudden hurt that can’t be escaped. But then I have also learned that because of pain, I can feel the beauty, tenderness, and freedom of healing. Pain feels like a fast stab wound to the heart. But then healing feels like the wind against your face when you are spreading your wings and flying through the air! We may not have wings growing out of our backs, but healing is the closest thing that will give us that wind against our faces.”
Thanks a lot, Diana C. for including me into this brilliant idea. The next word is “Reality” for Dreamer’s Way.
